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The definition of resilience is ‘the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness’…. All I hear from that definition is “suck it up”, “harden up” and other societal or familial messages that don’t allow for ones’ authentic feeling and response to the impact of significant events that one experiences. This is especially important for our children who are being exposed to earthquake trauma and terror.
A child is no better off showing they’re stoic in the face of trauma and natural disaster if that is not their authentic feelings. Instead, the denied emotion becomes stored elsewhere in one’s body which can then manifest in other ways such as anxiety, headaches and tummy pains. Bessel van der Kolk (2014) offers brilliance in his writings of the imprint of trauma on the body in ‘The Body Keeps The Score’ (2014). Working within a trauma-informed approach (TIA), gives rise to necessary consideration of the environment or service ‘umbrella’ under which one is expected to deliver such a framework. Research evidences the cumulative burden of adversity on increasing risk for many negative outcomes, such as mental illness and a response in many service sectors has been to consider invoking concepts of trauma and adversities in policy and practice. In my career as an Occupational Therapist, I predominantly worked in Child and Adolescent Mental Health and Forensics in the public health system. In more recent years, I gained qualifications as a Psychotherapist and I now work mainly with ACC Sensitive Claims individuals. I want to discuss the response and extent to which I have experienced these services to work within overarching principles of TIA firstly as an Occupational Therapist, and secondly as a Psychotherapist within what can be regarded as an insurance-based model to trauma care. Briefly, it is important to outline the principles that a TIA is based (for more information see Te Pou Te Pou o te Wakaaro Nui: Trauma informed care, 2018). TIA aims at creating a culture that embodies the following –
safety; trustworthiness and transparency; peer support; collaboration and mutuality; empowerment, voice and choice; and understanding cultural, historical and gender issues. Rather than telling your child to “calm down”, perhaps guide them through a very simple strategy involving 5 steps, that assists with that process. This is just an example that could be easily adapted to fit what your child needs especially around their own sensory processing.
Positive Parenting seems to be a phrase I hear often, as a way to encourage what I imagine to be warm, thoughtful interactions with our children.
The bit that doesn’t quite align for me is that there are times when parenting doesn’t feel positive at all – not because the opposite of positive parenting is neglect or abuse – it’s simply because there are good days and there are days. The truth is, there is room for both. We won’t and we don’t get it right every time. If I’m honest, ever since I was given my baby daughter to hold, I critiqued my parenting skills. And I did so even more when told my 8-year-old daughter is anxious. I promptly blamed my husband’s family genes for the anxiety whilst feeling I had done something to my daughter. And with the prevalence of social media today, everyone’s opinion is more apparent than ever Kia ora from lockdown Level 3 – not as bad as Level 4 but still seemingly taking it’s toll somewhat.
I find myself getting annoyed at the advertising about connecting with others through the use of screens and devices and I am aware of how contradictory I am going to sound as I work my way through this post. I do not want to envision a future where it is acceptable to conduct relational psychotherapy through technology – and hopefully in my professional lifespan, that won’t have to happen again. I say hope, because no one knows! No one has a crystal ball, so there is part of me resigned to the fact that I a glad I have gotten my head around HOW to use technology to sustain therapeutic relationships should the time come again. For now I am feeling grateful for what seems to be something intangible and something that cannot be communicated through a screen, that I offer in my therapeutic space. |